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admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

So, "Why do Women Cheat?" Men Want to Know

Not to answer a question with another question, but to ensure we all know where we stand in this conversation, I believe the first question should be "Do men really want to know?"
Most women (not the playas) ]who cheat do so because their emotional needs are NOT being met.

We can mostly assume that 'most' men who cheat do so 'Just Because' like some people have already ascertained.
This includes having the opportunity, having the interest, having their egos stroked, displaying their prowess etc.

Men like to have their cake and eat it too, but while they are busy feeding their mouths and egos, their mates are neglected, and when the women get tired of waiting around, they eventually capitulate to the other men who've been emotionally available to them doing their distresses. So it takes other MEN for these women to cheat too.

Just for jest, whether Men like to admit it or not, I'd say MEN as usual are the reason for this problem also, in addition to MENopause, MENstruation, MENance, Mental Issues, MENingitis, MENial results, etc...

Feeling neglected is NO reason to cheat on one's mate. The mature thing to do is to seek ways of working things out, and this may include
a) communicating (which involves both) as opposed to talking in which case only one person may be doing all the talking, while the other is faking interest, understanding and agreements;
b) attentiveness as to why one's mate is acting up;
c) seeking help and counselling from objective sources, therapists, pastors, mature couples, help groups etc.;
d) using wisdom and tact rather than anger, passive aggressiveness, arguments, revenge, etc.
e) being more loving rather than resentful, withdrawn, hateful etc.
(loving does not automatically translate into sex, but sex with loving emotions is considered loving) (honey is more effective than pepper.)

These examples are ways to seek resolution and would be more effective in instances where the men are not just dogs whose goal is to 'trip on ASS' regardless of whose it is. Some men can never find satisfaction in their mates and would always neglect (or eventually neglect) them no matter what.

Same for some women who are just playas and just enjoy playing the field, even though they are (or act like) the perfect wives in their home.

To be fair though, some of the women who are presently playas learnt their skills and resilience from the major playas - MEN. With the abundance of women out their, most men are having a ball, and some women are catching on fast.

The bottom line is emotions and lives eventually get ruined in the process of playas (both men and women) playing the field.

Cxsm
5th Dec. '03

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admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

You are right on the money, "EMOTIONAL NEEDS".

Sunday
12/6/04

LadyK · LoyalBee Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 69

Women cheat for probably the same reasons as men..perhaps their man is neglecting them i.e. spending too much time at work or away from home, not doing right, not making enough to pay the bills. Also the emotional reasons...if you don't spend time with her, she might find comfort in the arms of someone else.