Joined: 25 May 2007
|Posted: Wed Mar 11, 2015 7:59 am Post subject: Re: Unknowing Boyfriend Husband on Social Networks
|Re: My Husband is My Boyfriend on Facebook, Whatsapp and BBM and Does Not Know it Should I Continue This Game?
I just read an article wherein a woman asked a question after stating that "My Husband is My Boyfriend on Facebook, Whatsapp and BBM and Does Not Know it Should I Continue This Game?" http://nwdailyblog.com/my-husband...w-it-should-i-continue-this-game/ and my response is shared below.
You are playing a very dangerous game that could easily lead to the demise of your marriage. First of all, you're equally cheating on your husband, albeit with him. You're obviously investing more quality time in the affair than in your real marriage, hence the reason his interest has waned in his wife and is more focused on his virtual lover. If you put more effort into giving him the attention, seduction and all else you are sharing with him in real life, rather than virtually, then there would be no reason for his interest to wane.
Sharing photos of your private part with him does not make a difference to a man, because it's simply a body part and it could as well be anybody else's. Sex can come and go, but emotions should not be toyed with.
Your game will backfire if you continue along the present lines, because you haven't played it right. If you really needed to role-play, you would have backed up your actions in real life, wherein even if and when he took the online/virtual bait, you were always in the position to equally match his yearnings and desires in real life, hence limiting his interest or willingness to pursue the virtual romance beyond a fantasy stage.
Instead of giving him a push in the right direction, to yearn for what was equally desirable at home, you have simply offered him a substitute and an option, which he obviously finds more desirable than what he's getting in real life. It takes two to role-play and in this case he's not a consenting participant, but a scape goat, and if you lose him by leading him astray into other affairs, now he's had a taste, even though nothing has culminated from it in real life yet, you'll only have yourself to blame.
He'll feel used, manipulated, betrayed, mocked as a fool and may even question your faithfulness and ability to have an affair behind his back also. After all, it takes two to have an affair, and you have not only initiated it, but have equally participated in it. He himself might begin to question why and whether you would share intimate photos of her private part with other strangers, after all that is how you have portrayed yourself in real life, though via virtual connections.
You have sharpened a two-edged sword and if you are not careful to lay it down gently, you both might get hurt badly and beyond your imagination. You'd have to ask yourself, whether it was all worth it at that point. You need to search within yourself as to why you actually chose to bait your own husband and risk any trust that might have been built up and existed prior to this. Marriage is not a game. There are enough people having external problems, why are you creating internal problems with your own hands?
You needs to act mature and stop the games. It's best to find a way to end it all, by letting him know you are his virtual girlfriend, in a way that doesn't question his loyalty or hurt his ego, because you're the one who stepped on a lion's tail, and how you handle it will determine whether you gets bitten or can be trusted to wander within his territory.
10th March '15