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Thanks CXSM. I see that I might need to be active in my STOP CHEATING NOW Coalition!
LadyK
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 3:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Waka-waka wrote: | Teach me Bio..Gini?
If you go and re-examine your Biology textbook again, you will see where I clearly stated that there is only one fertilizable egg at a time except of course if you still own the old edition. I will also like to add that the sperm do not chase. Rather, They search for the egg as it is stationary but hidden (very well in some cases).
That Adam and Eve thing is just a story. If the Almighty actually created Eve out of the Rib of Adam, that can very well be translated into meaning a man is allowed to marry 22 wives. The same number of ribs that he has, ko ba haka ba? Going with that story again, why would the almighty create eve out of rib and all of a sudden, or as an after thought decide this method is inappropriate and change it to having intercourse? hmm ? answer me , hmm? why?
Another way you can look at is that Adam as we all know is proponed to be the first man. Being the first man, at that point he was only 1 man. EVe on the other hand is likened to the Australian "sheila" which is just generally women. U see no matter how you swing it, it still comes back to what I initially said
why else is it that in the business of child bearing, the woman is put out of commission for 11 months after a successful copulation, while the man can just stroll to the neighbors daughter and comb her down the very next minute? It is in the design! Only women cheat, men just perform their God-given duties, which is to find as many women as possible and comb!. |
But if he does that, he won't have any ribs left thought
Mona
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 3:17 pm Post subject: |
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| Waka-waka wrote: | | .........................why else is it that in the business of child bearing, the woman is put out of commission for 11 months after a successful copulation......... |
Waka,
Wetin you dey do to 'all' those women wey you dey knock out for 11 months, the reason women are adviced not to copulate right after pregnancy is to prevent immediate pregnancy while they are nursing their newborn clones of their husbands, and also to give their bodies time to recover from the trauma of childbirth. Besides sometimes the old gets set aside for the new.
| Waka-waka wrote: | | while the man can just stroll to the neighbors daughter and comb her down the very next minute? Only women cheat, men just perform their God-given duties, which is to find as many women as possible and comb!. |
Have you forgotten the reasons women cheat? Maybe it's also because of their adulterous mates who are busy combing their neighbours.
Remember the previous discussions on the "Why Do Women Cheat" thread wherein it was stated that:
Most women (not the playas) who cheat do so because their emotional needs are NOT being met.
We can mostly assume that 'most' men who cheat do so 'Just Because' like Sola and most in the forum already ascertained.
This includes having the opportunity, having the interest, having their egos stroked, displaying their powress, etc.
Men like to have their cake and eat it too, but while they are busy feeding their mouths and egos, their mates are neglected, and when the women get tired of waiting around, they eventually capitulate to the other men who've been emotionallly available to them doing their distresses. So it takes other MEN for these women to cheat too.
Just for gest, whether Men like to admit it or not, I'd say MEN as usual are the reason for this problem also, in addition to MENopause, MENstration, MENance, Mental Issues, MENingitis, MENial results, etc...
Feeling neglected is NO reason to cheat on one's mate. The mature thing to do is to seek ways of working things out, and this may include
a) communicating (which involves both) as opposed to talking in which case only one person may be doing all the talking, while the other is faking interest, understanding and agreements;
b) attentiveness as to why one's mate is acting up;
c) seeking help and counselling from objective sources, therapists, pastors, mature couples, help groups, etc.;
d) using wisdom and tact rather than anger, passive aggressiveness, arguments, revenge, etc.
e) being more loving rather than resentful, withdrawn, hateful etc.
(loving does not automatically translate into sex, but sex with loving emotions is considered loving) (honey is more effective than pepper.)
These examples are ways to seek resolution and would be more effective in instances where the men are not just dogs whose goal is to 'trip on ASS' regardless of whose it is. Some men can never find satisfaction in their mates and would always neglect (or eventually neglect) them no matter what.
Same for some women who are just playas and just enjoy playing the field, even though they are (or act like) the perfect wives in their home.
To be fair though, some of the women who are presently playas learnt their skills and resilience from the major playas - MEN.
With the abundance of women out their, most men are having a ball, and some women are catching on fast.
'Bottom line is emotions and lives eventually get ruined in the process of playas (both men and women) playing the field.
Cxsm
2/14/05
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| Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 3:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Cxsm wrote: | | Not to say there aren't women who also do, to which you may also feel free to express your opinion, but WHY DO MEN CHEAT? |
I do not even mind so much if a man cheats as they claim its in the blood but what i mind is when they get so engrossed and forget where they are coming from. My father has always cheated on my mum as far as am concerened (typical nija man) but the minute my mum gets any wind of it he will retreat straight away and worship his wife for as long as it takes to be forgiven. He is a good father and a good husband in other respect, so i think my mother has alway just accept it as the way. Me on the other hand ( another generation) was married to a cheat for 10 years i always found out to late but the third time i thought na... cant do this and i left but i left most especially because he did it to close to my enviroment or else what i dont know cant hurt ... abi.
The Point i cant get straight is when men do it, its in the blood and they cant help it but when a wife does it she is a slut. I do not find it acceptable for any of the sexes and i wish that people could consider the devastation cheating can cause to the families e.t.c. Stop being selfish and zip those pants up, especially when you are married
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| Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: Re: Why do Men Cheat? - Responses and Analysis |
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Re: Why do Men Cheat? - Responses and Analysis
My Dear,
It has been a while, the topic wont just leave my screen.
Cheat, the meaning has changes with changing times, like Adultery, Fornication giving way to connect, love, fast one, quickie or what ever.
I am not on the line of knowing/saying who does and does not cheat, but is it true that, it is only the woman that knows the father of her children? Is it also true that in a particular ancient Country in Europe, a very religious one for that matter, it is said that 80% of births today, are to the wrong fathers?
Listen, doing the wrong thing is so easy and there is nothing so special about that, cheating [on] your spouse does not make you a macho or special, it only holds you down with an extra load of care that was not in so many cases budgeted for.
Read the scrolls of the ancients and you will see that you are not the first and will not be the last, but the result thereof is by far worst than the momentary pleasure it brings.
But tell me why, will I promise to love my wife till death fo me part and then fall back. I heard of a bishop that was said to be starving the wife of sex. I laughed and told the birds to return to this same woman and ask her, what she did to warrant that. Yes, what did she do? I want to be naive, but believe me most men will rather stay with the wives of their youth than go out and find abuse in prostitutes and younger or free ladies, with their wives at home. What will you subscribe to a man who is married and the wife refuses him sex for months in some stretch? Let him be patient? or just masturbate? tell me?
The holy books said and I believe it that the 'wise woman builds her home, when the folish one uses her hands to tear hers down'. I am not standing for the adulterous spouse, but only saying what the holy book said, that 'to avoid temptation do not refuse each other SEX. The body of the man belongs to the woman and that of the woman belongs to the man'. We are sure the man demands for sex more times than the man, give it to him and he will not be tempted outside the house, because he will have been satisfied from the house.
Adamu does not know what he is saying, some people are just......., just what? tell me? try it and see prayerfully, even the straying husband will return home and stay with his family. No man will want an ilicite affair to break his home.
On the men, give your spouse the grace to appreciate the fact that her body used as a bargaining chip is only detrimental to her and the family and not the husband. Because if a woman/married tells her husband that 'no money no romance', she is telling him that she is no different from the ones on the street who are cheaper and always ready for action, because for them time is matters.
May our virtues and families named in heaven and on earth be saved from the snares of the evil traps that wants to see homes fail. May God Almigthy intervene in our home and provide for us all that we need to make a success of our family projects. Amen.
Happy weekend.
Adamu
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