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Waka, I actually agree with you. Flowers die and when they do, they do stink up the place!!
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 5:49 am Post subject: |
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| Cxsm wrote: | What is So Special About Nigerian Men?
Someone posed this question on one of the websites and I'm curious to find out what you folks think out here.
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Please assist me. What is so special about Nigerian men? On the internet, I've read about American women who are head over heals over Nigerian men. Some have visited Nigeria for the first time and got married, an Ethiopian girl looking for a Nig. man, Pple looking for jobs in Lagos....????
Is Nigeria the only country in Africa? I need to find out. Possibly get myself a Nigerian man too.
Naija1, I took note of your response regarding Nigerians, their qualities etc. I'm a bit puzzled about the craze out there. It could possibly be that every African is believed to be Nigerian. Please help members, I just need to understand. |
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Im confused and hurt by this question!
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:02 am Post subject: |
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I'm a Black/African American female and I'm engaged to a Nigerian man that is the absolute love of my life. I recently visited Nigeria for the first time and did receive blessings to marry him from both of his parents. My Nigerian man and I were introduced by a mutual friend of ours, and we fell in love. I had heard that Nigerian men were good to their women, but after dating a few I found that men are men. All are not the same, Black, White, Nigerian, or otherwise.
My fiancee is a very generous man, kind and loving to everyone, not just me. He is very considerate and spoils the hell out of me. He is intellectually stimulating and knowlegeable about most subjects. The love he has for his children and his calm, practical demeanor is a turn on to me. When I was in Nigeria, he went to great lengths to make sure I was comfortable and to show me a good time. I was received well by his family and friends. I literally trust this man with my life and look forward to spending the rest of my days on earth with him, because I just couldn't imagine my life without him in it.
I do like the fact that Nigerian men are known to have deep love and devotion to their family. They are taught to be "The MAN" in their relationship, very strong leadership abilities. Although my Fiancee spoils me, I have gotten to see that strong side of him as well. He's never rude or abrasive, but can display that typical Nigerian authority. Bottom line, My Nigerian man and I share many common interest and we have some differences that make us a unique couple. We both agree that we are not perfect people, but we are perfect for each other. We are soul mates.
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:12 am Post subject: |
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Re: What Is So Special About Nigerian Men?
Nigerian men have an aire of confidence that makes them downright attractive. I enjoy a man who can be gentle at times, but knows how to be a real man in the relationship. They're intelligent, sophisticated and well versed. Family is important to them and most have a high respect for their parents.
Not that I'm dissing my AA brotha's, but I enjoy being in the company of Nigerian men. They appreciate me for who I am: A well versed, educated and intelligent sistah.
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:27 am Post subject: |
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| Ebonyangel wrote: | | I was received well by his family and friends. I literally trust this man with my life and look forward to spending the rest of my days on earth with him, because I just couldn't imagine my life without him in it. |
Hmm, are you sure? love is still shacking you.
| Ebonyangel wrote: | | They are taught to be "The MAN" in their relationship, very strong leadership abilities. |
What does it mean to be the man?
Obiora
1/13/07 |
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:33 am Post subject: |
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| Obiora wrote: | Hmm, are you sure? love is still shacking you.
What does it mean to be the man? |
Obiora, this is a million dollar question. As I had the unpalatable task of telling a guy quite recently.... How can a woman possibly begin to teach a 39 (the guy in question) year old man how to be a man? That surely is an exercise in futility!!! It is sad and I'm not sure if you have the same trend in the States, but some of my Nigerian brothers here in the UK have adopted oyinbo mentality even pass the oyinbo man. Some guys now hide under the umbrella of materialism. They know it's a word many women worth their salt cringe from. No woman, well, that I know, wants to be called materialistic but abeg, a man has still got to be a man. The way we knew it back home, men are men and accorded the head of the family becuase they take care of the needs of the household. I am not preaching that women should relax, hold the remote and wait to empty the guy's pockets but when I go to a restaurant with a guy who is asking me out, I most certainly expect him to pick the bill unless I feel like paying, which I must say I actually do sometimes. If I go grocery shopping with a guy and he is pointing out vintage wine and dropping rather expensive items in the trolley, broda, I expect your wallet to come out at the till.
But it appeared this my 'friend' was not into such things. When I bothered to broach the subject gingerly, his response was a laid-back....ki okunrin ri ejo, ki obinrin pa, ki ejo sa ti ku ni.... I smiled within me. This most certainly was not my kind of brother. If it's a man's policy not to give, o boy, it had better also be the same man's policy not to take but not so in this case. Now, I can't be with that excuse of a man! Yes I am generous, in fact maybe to a fault (if my friends, the few that I keep, are to be believed), but I'm not looking for some lazy bone to dump on me. I quite naturally... ... showed him my door. I 'saw' the guy for close to 2 months and never knew the colour of his wallet!!! The Nigerian men that I know o, the way they taught us at home... represent and do not shy away from responsibilities. That, in my opinion, is one of the ways to be a man.
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:37 am Post subject: |
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Re: What is So Special About Nigerian Mem?
Naija men rock in their unique ways, the good, the bad and the ugly!
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| Bolanle wrote: | Re: What is So Special About Nigerian Mem?
Naija men rock in their unique ways, the good, the bad and the ugly! |
Now, tell me about the bad and ugly Naija men, that sounds extremely interesting! I've got the popcorn and fanta right here.
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:42 am Post subject: |
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| The Dreamer wrote: | | Now, tell me about the bad and ugly Naija men, that sounds extremely interesting! I've got the popcorn and fanta right here |
About the bad and the ugly....hmmmmm.
It would be chilidish if i stereotype Naija men na. hehe...see there are those that know how to take care of a woman, and there are those that need to catch up a bit in that department. To me it ain't a big deal, seriously. Treat people around you and whoever you date like you want them to treat you. Simple. Ahhh our Naija brothers, all of dem sweet in their own ways, that of course includes you ...*wink wink*
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I hope this is the appropriate place for this. I was referred to these site and just wanted to share:
www.nigerwivesnigeria.com
For other AA women like myself who are married to Naija's finest!
MrsEze
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