We Really Have to Get Serious

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We Really Have to Get Serious

Folake Aina
5th July 2008

Women!!!! Believe me!!! We really have to get serious. Something is going on, and everyone is just ignoring it. We really have to get our priorities right. We have all agreed that whatever you choose to do, do it well. Be a success.

If you decide to get married and stay married, you must do it right. If you are in a relationship, hold it right. We are all also agreed that keeping the home together, keeping a relationship together is hard work. But we are up to the task. Come on now !!! We are up to the task. We all know that cooking, cleaning, combined with business or career, raising kids, taking care of the home, taking care of the man..

It is hard work believe me. I do agree that sometimes we do need help. But too many women have handed over the home to the house maids, and what you do not know is that most of the housemaids that are around these days are street smart and most of them envy their madams, and they come scheming to take over from their madams.

There is a bevy of housemaids out there and they are on a take-over mission, so, be very sensitive and don't ever take anything for granted. Yes!!! Your man has scruples. Yes! Your man cannot stoop that low. Yes! That is a house-maid for goodness sakes!!! But they are on a rampage, and they are well equipped. Someone said they have all that voodoo too.

Most of us don't believe in "jazz", but I cannot seem to understand how some things that we hear can ever happen, especially to the caliber of people they happen to. Someone said that many housemaids come to Lagos prepared to take over at all cost. Many of them are diabolical and would go through any length to take over.

They believe that they have suffered enough, and you are their passport and visa to their suffering escape route. It does not matter if they have to step on you to climb out of suffering. No-one believes anymore that they were born to suffer; after all, "What does madam have that I do not have? I be woman, madame be woman. Wetin madam dey cook wey I no fit cook? Madam get two head?"

My friend told me that she left her house for work in the morning. She saw her housemaid before she left, she was perfectly alright. She had even helped with taking her bags into the car. About thirty minutes after she left the house, she gets a phone call from her husband. The housemaid started acting up, like she was in pain, she had changed into some tight fitting crops and a sexy "see through" blouse. She caught "oga's" attention.

She had pain in the chest area. Just in the area between her boobs, and "oga" was supposed to touch it and see how the place "hot and as e dey shake". So the man asked her why she didn't show it to madam before madam left the house, and just calls his wife. Of course they sent her packing that same day. They have become that daring. It failed in this situation, but you would not believe it some men have fallen for such traps.

Another story I heard was about this housemaid who would always leave taking a bath till just about the time "oga" was on his way out to work, and she would leave her bathroom door open so that every morning, the man saw her stark naked. The situation was controlled, she was sent away, but some men have been known to fall into such traps. I was sitting in the plane next to this woman and she had this to say.

She said there was a new category of "madams" in town. She says one day, this expatriate comes to the club with his wife, the nanny comes walking in behind them taking care of the kids. Before too long, master has sent madame back to Europe or wherever and the house maid has taken over.

They are so confused. She used to be Susanah the housemaid, and now you don't know what to call her. You cannot address her like you used to, she cannot do your errands any more, and you just can't call her "madam"

But that is the new madam. Before too long Susanah is dressing funky and is the new "Mrs", and she has her half caste baby trotting along with her and oga to the club. She said it is so rampant, it is so appalling. So you say, it could only happen to an expatriate. He fell because he does not know the tricks. You are wrong.

This Lady married to a decent Nigerian man (At least so she thought) walked in one day early from work and found her husband sitting on the floor and the housemaid oiling his scalp. What??? Another woman came home and found her husband in bed with the housemaid!

You say "God forbid" Yes! I say so too. But we all must be wise and take some wise steps, particularly give the housemaid no access to your man. Even if she helps you with cooking. You do the putting it together and serve him yourself. She needs anything, she talks to you. Do what your mind tells you, but be aware of what is going on.