Down-Low - A Dangerous Lifestyle

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Down-Low - A Dangerous Lifestyle

To be on the Down-low means to being "Hush-hush" about homosexual relationships that so-called heterosexual men are having outside of the relationships and marriages, while PRETENDING to be heterosexual.

i.e. Men LYING about their sexual desire for other men

Unfortunately, men practicing Down-low even when they found out they had HIV didn't decrease their promiscuous acts, and some didn't even notify either their male or female counterparts.

Knowing that women who have reached a particular age are desperate to meet eligible men, most Down-low men have a huge pool of women they can deceive while continuing their promiscuous acts. Such men have admitted that Churches are not exempt and supposedly have a better selection of men that down-low men can pick up, as opposed to going to gay bars to pick up openly homosexual men. Equally available are decent women eager to meet men they ASSUME are heterosexual and decent.

There are so many men who are down-low that they remain an "invisible population". Down-low men communicate with and pick up other down-low men with eye signals.

Although Black people make up only 12% of the American population, they are diagnosed with 50% or new Aids cases, with predominant numbers in the southern region of the U.S. Presently 72% of women infected with Aids are African-American.

Women over 50 are increasingly being diagnosed with HIV/Aids because having come out of failed marriages, most are dating for the 1st time in a very long time and unfortunately are mating with men who already have the virus and practice unsafe sex.

Advice for women, do NOT be desperate to mate with men whom you do NOT know their sexual history, and any man who is UNWILLING to reveal his sexual history, take an HIV test or practice safe sex, should always be a RED FLAG.

Cxsm
16th April '04

© Cxsm 2004 All Rights Reserved

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Good article, but be careful about the word 'pretend' as there is not just heterosexual and homosexual, there is also different degrees of bisexuality. Not to mention heterosexual transgendered and homosexual transgendered and bisexual transgendered, etc. It's not just a simple A or B.

Also, shows like Oprah's only show one side of the coin. The women too are doing each other at what seems like a higher rate, these days, in the US and elsewhere. The difference is, a man expells sexual fluids and a woman excepts sexual fluids and retains them in her body for some days. Making it easier for disease to seize her body, if the man has been switch-hitting.

Gay or certain types of bisexual men (the ones into anal penetration, as some are just into oral) then use their rectum as a female organ. So they too, take in sexual fluids and retain them in their bodies for days. So disease is easily spread among them too. So MEN spreading the disease is based on anatomical design not that men ONLY are doing each other.

Women are doing each other too but are not anatomically built to share their sexual fluids internally as easy. So tell the whole story, not half of it.

In sexually corrupt America, for instance, sex addicts are having "no strings attached" sex parties/orgies semi-regularly attended by both men and women (strangers). Spreading a woman around amongst men like one cigarette shared among 5 or 10 men plus another woman or two.

Women and men are on the internet, joining varied sexual sites (second largest sites visited on the whole internet worldwide), to seek out their taste for secretive or closeted bi or homo one-on-one or swinging sexual lifestyles with couples. The folks down in Southeastern US are really out of hand with it, as AIDS is spreading fast there.

Women are looking for 'cuckold' relations/marriages with men privately. ]Cuckold meaning a husband whom is 100 percent faithful to his wife sexually but wants his wife to be sexually 100 percent UNfaithly to him. The wife agreeing whole-heartedly to this 'new found freedom'! It all meaning the husband is a closeted bisexual and this is the way he wishes to deal with it. Even asking, in some cases, to let him watch, as the wife is being unfaithful.

So human sexuality nowdays is not so simple and just a one-sided coin. This is one reason divorce is so high in 'modern' world societies. Among Blacks in America, only 52 percent of women around the 25-40 age group are married; lowest of all races in the US. So it is not hard to see why some groups have a high level of AIDS exposure. What are people doing in these ages groups when they are not married but changing boyfriends or girlfriends often/passing themselves around sexually too much(chance taking to prevent loneliness).
So in the end, traditional family-extended family has far greater advantages over today's nuclear family structures. As such requires more responsiblity/morality from each individual and combats much loneliness.

Author unknown

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I want to respond and comment on the posting left by 'cxsm@...'.
Your articles/postings are very timely. They should serve as a wake up call to all people. There has been a overflow and surplus of sexual paraphenalia or outlets, that most believe you have to get as much sex as possible before you become "old" or "unattractive".
Sex is an intimate expression. You can't be intimate with everyone you are physically attracted. You are close friends with everyone you like, so, the same principle applies. None of us were designed to mate with everyone we have an attraction. Sexual conquests give you a false sense of empowerment. It is actually the opposite. You are really weak and succumb to every sexual/chemical response you have in your body. That gets you in trouble. Now, there are way too many HIV/AIDS cases walking around. Those are the ones who has been tested. There are quite a few that have no clue. They will find out when they get the "common cold" and remain hospitalized for 3 months. AIDS/HIV is serious.

People, especially brothers, you gotta wake up!!! Brethren, just because you can commit an act and "get away with it", doesn't mean it is cool. Someone else knows about your "messing around with the brethren". What if that brother you thought would be safe to have sex, turn against the promise to keep the encounter discreet? Now, you are caught out there! That's not a good thing! Brothers you (we) are the warriors and providers of the community. If you fall for every trap the enemy has set before you, you will never be able to tap into Divine Power through the people's saviour, Jesus Christ.
Yeah, some may deny the fact that Christ lived, died, and lives again for our soul's sake. But, when you are in trouble, whose name do you utter first and foremost? Jesus Christ! Social, sociological, personal, physical, mental, and spiritual problems can't be fully rectified. That's the entire point of our Holy Creator sending His Son! We have to get it together and accel to our true purpose. Nobody's purpose is to sneak around and have tons of homosexual sex.

Also, it's not about being desirable and you doing a favor to your community by sleeping with lots of women and men. I have just as much opportunity as the next attractive, desirable brother. But, I chose to seek out my true purpose for my life. That's when you tap into the peace we all yearn!!! Take care. Be safe. Respect and
Divine guidance!!!

Jumaane, USA

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Great Job Spreading this Crucial Information.

I have just started a new position as the Housing Coordinator for a local HIV/AIDS support agency. I find temporary housing for those who already have been diagnosed with AIDS or are HIV+.

There is also a desperate need for more straight forward factual information for people of color.

Keep up the great work!

Martin E. A.

4/22/04

LadyK

This is a great topic. A lot of my black female friends know all about this but they equate the city of Atlanta as the culprit...umm, I am sure it's deeper than just Atlantic. Women and men need to be cautious. Sex is great but is a few minutes of pleasure worth the lifetime of misery in sickness. The choice is yours. I think that folks need to go back to the days when folks would wait but I guess that's kinda old fashion nowadays.

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Re: Down-Low - A dangerous lifestyle

Let us not forget, thanks to the proliferation of pornography in the West, among other things (70s' US white feminism impact), Black women are doing the down-low too. Many are going full steam ahead into open bi-sexuality or lesbian life styles (anti-traditional family).

Claiming there are not enough marriageable Black men available and they certainly are not going to accept polygamy as a solution in the Western world. Ironically, gay women are then starting up websites or net groups seeking men to donate sperm for child-birth (signing paperwork to relieve the fathers of their biological rights). Something once only common among single white females or couples.

-21st Century-

Yao
[Net-Liberia]
5/24/04

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OPRAH Putting "DOWN LOW" on Blast

EUR
4/16/04

Friday's show focused on black men with wives, girlfriends and male sex partners, too. *It's 2004 and the phrase "down low" has gone way beyond the recognized sexual indiscretions. The phrase has been connected to a growing number of African-American homosexual men, in particular, who are living as heterosexuals, popularized by the book by J. L. King called "On the Down Low."

The issue was the focus of a recent episode of "Law & Order: SVU" and was the topic of the "Oprah Winfrey Show" on Friday. Oprah will, in addition, recognize the sensitive and urgency of the HIV/AIDS issue with the episode titled "Living on the Down Low"

"This show is important because hopefully it will generate discussion and awareness particularly in Black communities," said Phill Wilson, executive director of the Black AIDS Institute, which is coordinating a national HIV testing effort towards African Americans.

"At the end of the day, it's the silence that engines the AIDS epidemic in Black communities."

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Someone forwarded this rather troubling, almost sickening, but candid response to me. I say it's a warning to both naive black men and women out there. (n.b. Language is explicit and unedited)
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Ladies, we are in BIG trouble. This is scary! - Ngozi
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With so many brothers like myself being blamed for the spread of HIV, I feel a need to get this off of my chest.

An Open Letter to Black Women

by Rayman Jackson

First of all, I would like to say emphatically that to all black women - I LOVE YOU!!!!. I respect you. I adore you. To me, there is nothing more powerful nor more sexy nor more divine than seeing you walk proudly in the sunlight of your blackness, your femininity, your sexuality, your sass, your strength, and your spirituality.

But sometimes, I want to taste a man.....

Black woman, to me, you are God's gift to the entire world. All the women of the world want to be like you. They seek to emulate the beauty of your full lips, your broadened nose, your wide hips, and even the crown of hair upon your head. They try to talk like you, they try to walk like you, they even try to swivel their head and pop their gum like you. But, they just can't be you. Only a black woman can be like a black woman.

But sometimes, I want to feel a man.....

There is nothing like making love to a black woman. I never have, nor do I ever plan to merge my body with any woman other than a black woman. There is something about our flesh when it comes together, when our sweat drips from one to the other, and when our sweet juices run together. I love to feel your body when you reach climax and when your loins contract tighter and tighter and then release. I love to hear you when you moan and groan and finally sigh and collapse back into the sheets.

But sometimes, I want to experience a man...

One day, I plan to walk down that aisle and begin a new life with a black woman. I want you, a black woman, to be the mother of my children, the grandmother of my grandchildren, and the great-grandmother of my great-grandchildren. I want my legacy and my destiny to be forever etched with you - A BLACK WOMAN. No other woman will do.

But sometimes, I need to be inside a man...

Not any man, he has to be a black man. Not white, not Asian, not Hispanic. He has to be black.

Sometimes, I don't know why, but sometimes I just want to feel the warm, hard body of another black man laying under my body. Sometimes, I long to hear another man's groan, just like I long to hear your groans. Late in the night, I want to hear him moaning deeply, just like I want to hear you moaning. I desire to feel his body tense up as my manhood enters him just like I desire to feel your body tense up as my manhood enters you. Sometimes, I want to just feel his full round lips wrapped around my manhood just like ! desire to feel your sweet lips wrapped around my manhood. Sometimes, I just need to pour my juices into another man just like I need to pour my juices into you.

Yes, sometimes I want to taste, touch, feel, penetrate, and experience a man...

And, when I want a man - I WANT A MAN. I don't want some brother who thinks he's a woman or tries to act like one. If I want a woman, I'll get a woman. But, when I want a man, I want a hard, strong, masculine black man. I want a man who's just as manly as me. I want to enter him deeply. I want to feel my pelvis against his buttocks, my chest against his back, and my sweaty skin against his sweaty skin.

I'm not trying to love a man or kiss a man or any of that. I just want to go inside him. There's something about the hardness of his body and the tightness of his backside that makes me want to taste what he's got.

It's not that I don't love black women, I just like to feel myself inside a man.....

It's not that I'm gay, homosexual, bisexual or any of those things. I don't claim any of those titles and so if you ask me if I'm gay, homo, or bi - [b[/b]]I'll tell you "No". I'm just a brother that knows what he likes. That's all.

Now, if you ask me if I have sex with men, I'll tell you "No". Yes, I know that lying is wrong and God don't like ugly. But, if I laid with you, and made sweet love to you, and then told you that sometimes I like to go inside a man....you wouldn't want me. Our relationship would be over. And, more than likely, you would "warn" your friends about me. And so, I lie. Not because I am trying to deceive you, but because I just don't think you need to know. All it will do is destroy what we have.

You see, honesty is not as simple as you think....

One day I'll stop, I'll settle down with my black queen. I can't promise that I'll completely stop experiencing men. There's just something about it that draws me. But, I do know that I won't do it nearly as much. Well, I don't know that, but I don't think I'll do it as much.

To the woman I will one day marry: I promise to be a good husband, and a good father to our children, and a good grandfather to our children. I'll love you, and protect you, and cherish you, and make you laugh, and dry your tears, try to give you the kind of home you have always wanted, and do my best to make your life as happy as it can be.

But sometimes, I'll still want a man......

Rayman Jackson

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BLACK WOMEN AND AIDS: Down Low has Women on High Alert

EUR
Apr. 19, 2004

Thanks in part to the play 'Not a Day Goes By,' a musical about black men who, while not calling themselves gay or bisexual, have sex with other men, and the upcoming book 'On the Down Low', which, along with its author J.L. King, was featured on the 'Oprah Winfrey Show,' a growing number of African American women are concerned about the subject and prevalence of the 'down low' in the black community.

According to a report by International Herald Tribune, in the past, concern about black women and AIDS in the United States was mainly directed to those who had used drugs or had had sex with known drug users. But increasingly, women outside those realms have begun to worry, too. In government studies of 29 states, a black woman was 23 times more likely to be infected with HIV than a white woman, and black women accounted for 71.8 percent of new HIV cases in women from 1999 to 2002.

Though new infections of HIV among black women have remained stable in the past few years, the number of those who have been infected apparently through heterosexual sex has risen. According to the Kaiser Family Foundation health organization, an estimated 67% of black women with AIDS contracted HIV through HETEROSEXUAL sex, up 9% from four years ago.

Furthermore, recent studies suggest that 30% of all black bisexual men may be infected with HIV, and up to 90% of those men do not know. Researchers for the centers have referred to these men as a bridge to infection from gay men to heterosexual women.

Dr. Peter Leone, medical director of the North Carolina Department of Health and Human Services, said "I don't mean to sound like Chicken Little, but if we don't react to this very quickly and aggressively, it'll be like the `80s all over again. Instead of gay white men, though, we'll be dealing with large numbers of young black men and their female partners."

[Re:] An Open Letter to Black Women

If you think what you just read above is alarming, a twisted soul who goes by the name of Raymond Jackson has written what he calls "an open letter to black women."

In it details his love and admiration for his queen, the black woman. He even sees himself married with children and grandchildren. Yes, he just loves him some black woman, but still, he needs to "taste" a man. And no, not just any man, but a "BLACK MAN."

Oh yeah, he doesn't think of himself as gay, homosexual or even bisexual. Warning, what he says and describes is somewhat graphic, but very scary.
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Dear EUR,

In regard to this 'DL' junk, its sad that it takes a life-threatening disease in order to even bring this DL 'phenomenon' to light.
Brothas, if youre gonna sleep with other people (woman and/or men), just STOP LYING about it ... it IS that other person's business when u put their health and life at risk! Stop being greedy and selfish basta'ds and at least own up to what you're doing!

*Kev in ATL
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"In my opinion, the so called 'DL' brothers are just homosexuals in denial. These brothers/sisters, set themselves up as prominent citizens and prey on the mentality of others.
If one knows that a person is gay, then they will make decisions about this person and then CHOOSE to interact with this 'DL' brother as need be. They, the 'DL' brother are exposing females to unnecessary risk and diseases This is an outrage and I personally feel that there should be criminal charges brought against these 'GUYS.'"

*John 'Skip'

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Some Questions About the DL Lifestyle

The isue of homosexuality in ancient and contemporary societies is nothing new. And humans have been experimenting with different sexual practices since antiquity. But soceities that have permited these sexual perversions to prevail more often than not have payed dearly in terms of the total break down of moral fabrics of these societies, and eventialy led to the demise and complete destruction of these civilizations! Students of history know what I'm talking about!

Regarding what is taking place in our modern society today, whereby some men are now coming out openly to claim that they are practitioners of the 'DL' lifestyle, yet, do not deem it fit for them to be categorized with the acronym, gay or homosexuals, and own up to their responsibilities. This befuddles my imagination! I tend to ask myself, what are they trying to hide? Why not stand up and be a man and own up to the life style that you have elected to follow? And tell the rest of us who truly value and cherish the feminity and structure of a womans' body, that you are smarter than us? On a closer scrutiny I see what they are tying to do. Have the best of both of worlds. Lying to their ladies about whom they truly are, because they have been lured into a disastrous habit of which they have reached the point of no return!

I have a couple of fundamental questions to that individual who claimed that he wants and loves his woman so badly, but still feels very much compelled about having anal penetration with a man. Sexual freedom has exploded in part becuase Charles Darwin the world famous and reknowned scientist, has postulated in his research work, that we are kits and kins of the apes in the animal world. My question is this; in the so called animal kindgom that we are their kits and kins, could you please explain to me what other animal species practice acts of homosexuality? Do these apes not battle one another vigoroulsy sometimes even to the death, in order to have sexual intercourse with the opposite sex? What kind of pleasure is their for you having your penis in an excrement duct? This is not funny. What if the other guy has some stomarch problems and does #2? What would you do, clean up and start all over again, or continue, and you call this fun?

Further more, are we humans now pointing our fingers at, and relegating God, to the background because we are sated with blessings, and think that we do not need God anymore. Every human being has the right to follow their dream and aspirations and pursue whatever life style that they have chosen to follow. But they should be careful not to try to force the rest of us to accept what they are doing as being right for everyone. As far as I'm concerned the 'down low' habit, is like any other habit, like excessive drinking, or smoking ect. It could be controlled and reversed, if any individual is willing to healed! You got yourself into it in the first place so you gotta get yourself out of it! A word is enough for the wise! If you wait until you have your kids, grandkids and great-grandkids it might be too late for you! Peace and Love!

Arty
4/29/04

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