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(British) Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - Survey(British) Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - Survey
Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - Survey
By Sherna Noah, PA News
More than 50% of women would not tell their partner "their" baby was not his if she wanted to stay with him, according to a survey out today.
The National Scruples and Lies Survey, carried out to examine the condition of British morals, discovered that modern women are profuse liars.
More than a third of women (32%) would pretend to use contraception like the Pill if they wanted to get pregnant but their partners did not want a child.
Almost a fifth of women (17%) with long term partners have had an affair â?? but only 40% regret it.
The survey's authors said a "staggering" 53% of women would not tell their long term partner or husband that a baby was not his if they wanted to stay with him after a secret affair.
Women fantasise about other men during sex (48%), fake orgasms (50%), and disloyally tell their friends about their man's sexual performance (36%).
Women are also regularly telling "white lies" and 62% do not feel bad about it. Only 27% tell their partner the truth if they think he is hopeless in bed, and over half (55%) will lie to flatter him if he asks about his physique or looks.
The survey, commissioned by That's Life! women's weekly magazine, discovered that "women put money before morals", with over a fifth (23%) saying that they would marry just for money.
Women will do almost anything for £1 million including having their little finger cut off (24%), giving up sex (34%), sleeping with a boss (20%), and running naked down their local high street (25%).
Women are also suspicious about their partners and admit to checking their partner's pockets (46%), text messages, (47%) mobile phone bill (27%) and have even followed him (10%).
Psychologist and That's Life! agony aunt Susan Quilliam said: "Women lie because they're afraid to tell the truth. They're scared of hurting people, scared of failing and scared of being criticised."
"Women are expected to be Superwoman and to fulfil expectations and to get what they want in life they feel they have to gloss over the truth."
The survey says that changes in traditional moral behaviour in the past 40 years have left women "totally confused" with a third saying they would stay with their partner if he had a one-night stand (32%), 28% if they discovered he was a secret transvestite and 17% if he announced he was gay.
More than three quarters (76%) told researchers they tell life-changing lies, while 12% do so frequently. And 94% of British women admit they lie and 34% tell "little white lies" most days.
Women also admit to lying about their weight (51%), background (30%) and salary (29%).
They tell most lies to their friends (93%), followed by their parents (91%), partner (90%) and employer (83%).
Researchers questioned 5,000 women, with an average age of 38, across the UK.
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Re: (British) Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - SurveyRe: (British) Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - Survey
Regardless of whether the people surveyed were British or not, the survey was to find out whether women lie and what they lie about etc. Regardless of whether the subjects were women or men, it also gives an insight into what humans lie about, to whom and some of the reasons why?
This is NO surprise as humans lie regardless of whether they are female or male. What may be surprising is how often they lie and to whom.
If over 90% lie to their friends, one can only wonder what defines friendship. If one feels a need to lie to those they consider friends, then why consider the relationships friendships to begin with? As for lying to mates, they either learnt from their counterparts or do so out of fear. Human beings lie when they FEAR repercussions from those they are lying to. A lesser percentage probably lie to their bosses, 'cos they know the facts they present are usually verifiable.
Lies are lies, regardless of how humans try to diminish their impact. White lies, embellishments, necessary lies, don't want to hurt his/her feeling lies, didn't see the reason to bring it up lies, etc., are all LIES.
Some people (including the law enforcement, some DAs, Immigration and some other authorities) have even had their psyches trained to believe that certain races and nationalities are liars, so that even when a person is speaking the truth and presenting FACTS, they BELIEVE the person is lying and they do all that is within their available means to skew the facts in order to confirm their delusion that the person is lying.
People who have been jailed, fired, denigrated, denied opportunities and benefits, just trials, etc. based on such delusions and erroneous beliefs and biases can attest to this.
Relationships have sometimes been destroyed based on other people's lies. Mates trusting information from strangers and jealous friends as FACTS, mates insecure or paranoid because of previous lying mates, or just paranoia (devil's lies) have sometimes self-destroyed their own relationships based on LIES.
What's this world coming to with all the lying and cheating, etc., that's rapidly increasing and demoralizing the rest of society?
Before we all increase the 'lying pool', let's all think "Is this lie I'm about to tell really necessary?" "Am I beginning to spin a web, that may end up destroying someone else's life?" "What or whom really am I afraid of?" "What is the worst repercussion and can I survive it? Would this lie lead to a need for other lies?
There are different levels of liars including pathological liars and even those who believe their own lies as one person I once had the misfortune of meeting, but I'm sure such people began from the simple lies we're all guilty of having told, presently telling or are planning to tell.
Not lying takes a conscious effort and sometimes society makes it difficult to remain truthful, when people are denied opportunities when they tell the truth, but are benefited when they lie.
I've experienced and also witnessed people denied phone services, jobs, apartment rentals, loans and other opportunities, etc. for telling the truth, while witnessing people who've lied about their income, credit, education, work experience, etc. benefit from lies.
Some people even reject opportunities to have meaningful relationships with others who are being honest about who they truly are, but will jump at those who outright lie about their prowess, families, jobs, finances, potential, behaviours (Yes, I believe in monogamy and have all intentions to be faithful, when they're dogs and hos; Yes I'm straight, while they're bisexual or transvestites; Yes, I'm single with no kids, when they are married with children), and even their physical make up. (Oh, I got those abs from working out, when it was from liposuction; Yeah, I've always had long hair, when it's a hair extension to complement the fake nails fake boobs, etc.)
As difficult as it may be, since no one can cast the 1st stone and say they've never lied, we all can try to diminish the lies we tell by making a conscious effort NOT to. Eliminate fear by darning the consequences and telling the truth, as incredible as it may sound. You may just be surprised as is sometimes the case when you consciously decide to be honest about a situation you thought might land you in hot water.
Honesty may have gotten you into trouble sometimes, so what more have you to lose by being honest, (Yes, I failed in my previous marriage, and I do have kids; Yes, I have no experience in this particular task, but I'm willing to learn; Yes, my family's weird and/or poor, but I'm willing to defy the norm), etc. it may just have some sweet (though sometimes delayed) rewards awaiting you.
As for THOSE who rejected you for being honest, they'll believe, hire, have relationships with, rent properties out and give loans, etc., out to the liars who'll eventually give them their just rewards.
FRIENDS pleeeease reduce your lies, it'll be much easier getting along without having to worry about the inventions, fibs, web spinning and the LIES.
Cxsm
5th Dec. '03
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CXSM,
Interesting..mmm...and Men??
Blackqueen
12/08/03
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Yeah, interesting. Don't know jack about them though.
Specifically, the British strain.
Sola
12//11/03
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(British) Women Lie, Flatter and Have Affairs - Survey
It is so true that women lie to their female friends, and their friends believe them with no questions asked.
Women, stop lying to your female friends/acquaintances!!
Faithsnr
2/8/08
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