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Would You Date/Marry or Remain With A Poor Woman/Man?

Regardless of how hard or smart people work, not everyone is destined to be rich, although being rich is also relative. We all strive for comfort in our lives and whether this is measured by having children that give us peace, jobs that bring us happiness, family or activities that bring us joy, material goods that exceed those of our peers, or enough money to pay our monthly obligations, the fact is we all need some amount of money to facilitate the things that make life easier. Whether we are content is another issue, and at what level of financial prosperity we are content is also a diverse issue.

When we seek others to love as mates we are attracted by a variety of characteristics and qualities, and while we may be attracted by looks, physical attributes, level of education, intelligence, affluence, careers, family pedigree, race, religious beliefs, material or financial status, etc., the attributes that make us choose to be with the person we are dating as our lifetime mate are sometimes totally different, more profound or sometimes simply unexpected in comparison to those that attracted us to our mates in the first place.

A person may love another but feel they lack some attribute they desire in a life partner and thus seek another individual, eventually having a fruitful or futile search. Another person may fall in love with a person who does not fulfill all their desirable attributes, but consider them a soul-mate and be satisfied with their union for life. Another person might fall in love with a person they desire as their lifetime mate, but their family might object.

Some others marry for their selfish desires and these may include the opportunity to climb social ladders, mix with a desired pedigree, or simply for financial gain, but to each his/her own. So far both parties in marriage believe they are happy genuinely or fictitiously, who is anyone else to question their union? Others though are lucky to find mates who fulfill or exceed their expectations.

Where the missing desired attribute is money, the couples union may or may not materialize though, hence the question "Would you marry a poor woman or man?"

A man who is poor today may be rich tomorrow and vice versa; a man or woman's source of wealth might be questionable or undesirable, e.g. from fraud, prostitution, theft, occult or ritual practices, or other misappropriation and being rich does not equal being wealthy. Also, a person may still be quite young and may not have had the opportunity to accumulate sufficient finances to make their mark, either as a comfortable contributor or provider, or they might have health or other limitations such as still being in school or having family obligations that reduce their ability to have financial strength.

Regardless of the person's circumstances, applying the standard of measure that you personally consider as being poor, "Would you marry a poor woman or man?" Please share your reasons why?

Also, IF you are already married and you discover that spouse lied about their finances, and they are highly indebted, with their assumed finances actually being sourced from credit card and loan debts, would you remain married to them?

What IF their source of income is dubious and from undesirable activities, would you remain in the marriage? What IF your spouse suddenly becomes poor due to bad investments, fraud, financial mismanagement or other indebtedness and/or repayment of outstanding obligations, would you remain in marriage to your spouse? Please partake in the poll and share your reasons as to why or why not, as your feedback might be beneficial to others.

Thanks.
Cxsm
13th March '08

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