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Would You Consider Polygamy?

In this day and age, despite the urge and desire for monogamy, sometimes the options feel limited because of the disposition some men, which makes available options limited for some women.

As a result, some women are exercising their right to choose options which other women consider undesirable. Some women today are opting for polygamy either by choice or by default.

Some asctually get married and because second, third or fourth wives in societies, communities and countries where polygamy is not frowned upon, or simply become mistresses to men who are already married in these same societies or in countries where polygamy is frowned upon.

Even in the U.S., despite bigamy laws, in Utah and Mormon communities polygamy is very acceptable and considered the norm. The exception is that unlike in other countries whereby a man who chooses to marry more than one woman usually marries women that are unrelated. In the Mormon clans though, men are free to marry sisters, mothers and daughters and other seemingly strange arrangements.

These days many women complain about the shortage of men, and specifically GOOD men. Complains ring that the good men are not available because they are either already married, gay, in jail, and in other undesirable situations. While these may true to an extent, there are also divorced, widowed and younger men available in the pool of men, that women who so desire can date or marry from.

Making matters worse is the fact that "most men are unfaithful" even in marriage, not to talk of before marriage and this has caused some women to opt for dating solely married men, equally playing the field or at the extreme seeking the bisexual or homosexual options.

Most men are have their complaints about availabilty of GOOD women too, but the pool of available GOOD women seems to be larger, hence the reason some blatantly cheat on their mates and spouses.

Some of the women who are fed up of having to settle for options they consider undesirable, and those unwilling to wait to ride the tide of faith out, thus sometimes decide to take the bull by the horns and choose polygamy.

Since race or nationality has nothing to do with these choices as some women prefer to date outside oftheir race or nationality by habit, while some other women feel compelled to date outside their race when they can't find desirable men of their race or nationality available due to their geographical locations, their immediate communities, pool of eligible available men, etc.; polygamy is an option they willingly choose above all.

Here is an article titled "For many women, Romance is far from budding" http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-...101619.html?referrer=emailarticle

For all reading this write-up and the referenced article, would you consider "Rethinking your options?" If so, what option would you find desirable? Also, would you as a man or woman consider polygamy? If yes, why? If no, why not?

If you are already in a polygamous relationship, please share the pros and cons with us. Do you have any regrets, if so share your reasons why, if not also share your reasons why not.

If you were previously in a polygamous relationship, also please share the pros and cons with us. Do you have any regrets, if so share your reasons why, if not also share your reasons why not.

If you are already considering polygamy, or are about to embark on this option, please share your reasons why.

Thank you.

Cxsm
7th May '08

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