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Would/Have You Date[d]/Marry[ied] Solely for Looks?

Although beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and what we all consider ugly is relative, sometimes most of us can agree on what we consider as being ugly, or in Warri terms "Wowo". While most people are not vain, we consider people who would complement us or that we at least consider as looking somewhat attractive, at least to us, when we decide on whom to date or marry. While we also desire different body shapes and heights, I believe most of us at least want somebody whom we can wake up and feel comfortable seeing their faces first thing in the morning.

There are those who are exceptions to the rule and only want to date people whom they and others consider as being extremely good-looking, but those are exceptions. So are those who are so vain that their beauty outweighs their brains, especially in the wisdom department. Such are usually referred to as "Dumb Blonds" which does NOT translate literally, so please don't go around calling anyone dumb simply because they are natural or bleached blonds, you might end up regretting it.

There are also some men who believe women should be treated as "show-pieces" and as thus would only date or marry beautiful or pretty looking women, whom they might end up disrespecting, alienating, or maltreating. Equally are shallow women who date or marry only handsome or gorgeous looking men, only to endure beatings, abandonment , philandering, disrespect and/or maltreatment from these same handsome looking men. What you consider "God's gift to men or women" might actually be your gift from hell.

Then there are those who refuse to date people perceived as extremely good-looking for fear of losing their mates or other reasons related to their or other people's previous experiences; or simply because they don't want their mates overshadowing their own looks.

We have to acknowledge that God created us all and definitely we are not all equals in many ways, as a result, looks shouldn't be the sole reason for which we choose to date/marry or not date/marry another person. Usually when we get to know most people better, we realize they have more substance than the weight their looks alone carry. As a result, not everyone is choosy when it comes to dating someone whom others perceive as looking ugly. We have to remember that the fact that someone is perceived as being, or is indeed ugly-looking does not mean they have ugly personalities, for there are those who look beautiful or attractive, but have ugly personalities. These are indeed ugly.

By now most mature people in their adult lives know "looks can fool", and for those who settle for or choose arranged marriages based on photographs alone, they might indeed be deceived as the good-looking person they've seen in photographs might not have the body they assume matches the face, nor is their character defined by a head shot.

While beauty is in the eye of the beholder and hopefully by now we all know that looks can deceive the questions remain, 1] Would you date/marry an ugly-looking person? Why or why not? 2] Have you dated/married an ugly-looking person? Why or why not? Do you have any regrets? 3] Do/Have you date[d] only beautiful/pretty women or only handsome/gorgeous men? If so why or why not? 4] Did you marry your spouse or ex-spouse solely for their good looks? Are you grateful or do you have any regrets?

Your honesty would be appreciated as others can learn from your opinions and experiences.

Thanks.
Cxsm
13th March '08

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