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admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

Why is it That Only Men Propose to Women?

Some guy had posed this question, and I'm curious as to how you forummers feel about the subject matter. To start the ball rolling, I'll post some responses he already got.

Gbenga" <hifiva@.....com> wrote:

I am sick and tired of female waiting for men to approach them for marriage proposal. Why is it that only men propose to women? Why can't a woman walk up to a man and say, I like you, CAN YOU MARRY ME?

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

Re: Should Women Propose to men for Marriage?

Dear friend,
How dare you complain of being sick and tired of women waiting for proposals? The reason why women wait so long is due to the fact that most guys are scared of the institution called marriage. The average guy would want to stall for as long as possible...freedom dies with the arrival of a ring.
Should women propose? Yes, they should...
1. if they believe that's exactly what they and their partner want;
2. if they know the guy in question is mature to respect it and not get scared off.

Please folks, stop looking at it as a Naija thing. In every country on this globe, it's traditionally the man's role to do the asking. And this is not necessarily connected to the Bible. Since a man begins a family and heads the home (usually)...the man should choose the moment when things should start going uphill/downhill (as long as the female believes she wants to spend the rest of her life with him)...

It's even hard to comprehend a woman asking a guy out on a date or to begin a relationship, talk less of asking for his hand in marriage. However, if a couple have been together for so long, and they both know what the other wants...the female can always say,"Hey, let's get married".

The million dollar question: are women strong enough to take 'no' for an answer? I think I'd prefer to do the asking myself...just the planning alone (scenario...music...Tiffany or Louis Vitton box...dinner) is good enough reason to make every guy want to give it a go. Besides what will you tell your grandkids? "Your grandma forced me to marry her and I still wish I said no".

P.S. I've never been married so I really don't know what I'm talking about.

Tosindpoet
<tosinsbox@....com>

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

Umm, I know of plenty of women that are proactive in getting married...umm..yours truly had a fiance back in college days and I asked him and he said yes.

Perhaps I am of a different breed!

LadyK
4/25/04

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

We need more women like you.

So, how many women in here would take the initiative and propose to their boyfriend?

ObiefrmCA
5/14/04

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

I'd rather gouge my eyes with a rusty old spoon than propose to a man!

I'm way tooooo traditional and "stuck in the stone ages" for this one....I'd rather a man proposes to a woman.....

I could prep (subtuly of cos) a man to propose to me though (and believe me, there are very many creative ways doing this)....but thats an entirely different thing....

Berta
6/27/06

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

I know of plenty of women who have asked their now husbands to marry them. I do not think it is really a big deal this day and age.

Positivewoman
6/27/06

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

?..hhmm, maybe I am traditional after-all about some stuff??.I would NEVER ask a man to marry me, I would just die single if I had to?.just not in me to do that one??.nah?..

They need to man-up and step to the plate and take on that one..

"He that findeth a wife finds a good thing"

I am not suppose to be out looking for you??and when you do find me, you need to ask for this if you want it, if not another man would be glad to ask for it???..move out the way??lol??.

Blackqueen
6/27/06

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

Well asking someone to marry you over email is really not good lol

Positivewoman
6/27/06

admin · Site Admin Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 5404

So which method do u suggest for the single ladies on here?

Michael
6/27/06