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You've seen them still married - still in love - after 50 years and counting.

How did they do it?

Some couples say that the following Rules of Marriage have worked for them.

1. Never both be angry at the same time.
If both of you are angry, who is listening? It takes two to quarrel.

2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
Yelling begats even more yelling. Why start?

3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
So what if you think you're right. Swallow your pride and give in.

4. If you must criticize, do it lovingly.
You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

5. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
If you have forgiven your spouse for past mistakes, then why keep
throwing them up in his/her face?

6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
Marriages like plants need regular attention or they wither and dieâ€¦so do
marriages. Family comes first.

7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. Why revisit the same disagreements in the morning? Settle it before you go to bed even if it takes all night.

8. At least once every day say a kind or complimentary word to your life
partner. Always find something to compliment your spouse about everyday, even if it's nothing more than.You look beautiful today! I really appreciate you helping out around the house today!

9. When you have done something wrong, admit it and ask for forgiveness. You know you did it“ so don't deny it. Say I'm sorry and hope you're
forgiven.

Reference: "Ways To Grow a Strong, Healthy Marriage" by Maryam Ali, Ph.D., Marriage & Family Counselor.

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LadyK · LoyalBee Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 69

Good points AZ! Girl, I think that you have to be willing and open. Also, honest about things to have a healthy strong marriage. A lot of folks suppress their feelings and when they blow up, the other spouse may feel slighted.

I am sure there are other things but the list you presented has good places to start.

The Dreamer · Newbie Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 13

Marriage is a God ordained institution.

LadyK · LoyalBee Joined: 06 Jun 2007 Posts: 69

The key is remembering that God is in the center..when you take him out..that's when the problems start rolling in!